Grey's Anatomy: How Do I Live (21x18)

So, I don't watch 911 or Doctor Odyssey but I do like to check up on the tags, and from what I gather we were three for three on pretty disappointing season finales for these Thursday night ABC dramas! Yeesh.

Cons:

I'm literally having trouble deciding what to complain about first. Let's start with Richard. Why are you being such a dick to Meredith? Like, what a whiny, petulant little baby you've been all season, my dude. What gives? This episode has him throwing a fit that Meredith wants to sell her shares of the hospital to help with funding, and Richard acts like if she does that, suddenly she'll vanish and turn her back on everything she knows, never mind the fact that she still has family (Amelia!) in Seattle. And then he kind of apologizes in that half-assed way where what he's really doing is telling her he's not mad anymore and she has his permission to make her own choices. I don't get how Meredith is being so magnanimous about his behavior. He's been this way with her all season and it's so stupid! I also thought the stakes were poorly defined, like, it's not like the shares of the hospital are a frequent plot point that has a lot of emotional weight to it these days. I can't even remember who owns how much, doesn't Alex have shares? And Callie and Arizona? Why do we care so much anyway?

Grey's Anatomy: Love You Like a Love Song (21x17)

Wowwww I'm so annoyed at Lucas!

Cons:

The thing is, sometimes Lucas is just kinda boring and vaguely whiny and I think to myself "my dislike for this character is probably too extreme. I should get over that." But this whole story-line with Simone has been like... wow, my dude, where is this vitriol coming from? Straight up, Simone expressed in a fairly mature and straightforward way that she wanted to be a little more cautious and move slower with their relationship, and Lucas has been nothing but terrible to her about it. He's getting all pissed off at her for the extremely reasonable things she's saying about a patient? And just being huffy and avoidant and cold when she tries to have conversations with him? The fact that he could have the audacity to break up with her, and over what? For what reason? I really think I might hate this guy. I'm glad they've broken up, but we all know that's not going to last and I'm already annoyed.

Also, Jesus Christ, Owen, get your SHIT together my dude. What a dark and ugly episode for Owen Hunt. I understand that what's-her-face (Nora) is dying, but the dishonesty to Teddy, missing the wedding of his friends, cuddling with her in the hospital where anybody could see... what a massive dickhead. I'm sorry, but even if you're trying to do a kindness to someone who is vulnerable and scared, you don't just disregard the way it's going to make your wife feel. I'm on record wishing this whole open marriage story had gone in a really different direction. I wish they could have actually tried it and liked it. Then maybe it's this interesting thing where Teddy is still weirded out that her patient is sleeping with her husband, but it's all above board and she's adjusting to the strangeness of it. That still provides this really angsty and interesting scenario, where, how do you comfort your husband who is sad that his new... girlfriend? Casual sex partner? is dying and you couldn't do anything to save her on the table? I just hate how shitty Owen is, I hate how annoying everyone is behaving.

Grey's Anatomy: Papa Was a Rollin' Stone (21x16)

Oh my god, that nine-year-old girl... this was a sad one.

Cons:

Once again I must complain about literally all the romances in the show. At least Teddy and Owen weren't around this week. I'll be fast, because I don't actually like spending this much time complaining!

Jo and Link - I'm just bored of them and I don't really believe in them as friends or as a couple. The bit where Jo said she thought the NICU couple were like them, I was just like... I mean, I guess you guys have known each other for a long time, but that's about the only similarity? I'm just not picking up what they're putting down. And now I have to go to their wedding next week. Ugh.

Grey's Anatomy: Bust Your Windows (21x15)

Winston... Jules... stay the fuck away from each other please and thank you.

Cons:

Not a romance I feel like I can root for. Feels random, feels unmotivated, feels kinda gross. I'm still on the Jules/Mika grieving train and then if I can't have that, Jules/Blue is sitting right there. Why Winston? Yeesh. No thank you. Why is it this show simply cannot serve me compelling romance arcs anymore? At least there was no Jo/Link or Teddy/Owen this week, so I wasn't forced to put up with any of their nonsense.

On the one hand, I'm relieved that Lucas is going to get to stay with the rest of his intern class, but on the other, that felt like much ado about nothing! The lesson that Catherine needed to see him learn, of being able to put a patient first, was kind of simplistic and predictable, was it not? And then right when we've gotten through that dumb drama, we pivot immediately into Simone having angst or doubt about their future, as she clams up when Lucas starts excitedly talking about where they'll go after residency. This romance is boring to me, so I want it to either, a) stay drama-free so it doesn't take up too much of my time, or b) end swiftly. I'm thinking we're not going to get either of those things. Sigh.

Grey's Anatomy: Love in the Ice Age (21x14)

Guess who's being annoying?

Cons:

You know what sucks, is that I've been forced into a position to be on Owen's side here? I might have been okay with this story-line a little bit more if Teddy had been upset but had known she was being unfair, but instead she was straight-up treating Owen like a villain for doing the same thing she did! Like, sorry, but she was making out with someone, horizontal on a bed, and just because clothes never came off that means that Owen is the bad guy here because his extramarital thing went further than hers? The issue with this whole story is that Teddy has cheated on Owen before, there was a whole story about it. Owen had to find out about it due to a butt dial. The ghost of that story was haunting this episode and it's weird that it's not being brought up! God, this would be so much more interesting if even though they were both weirded out about it, they ended up feeling positive about the experience. More angst for these two is about the least interesting possible outcome.

I liked the main story this week with Bailey and Simone and the racist visiting doctor, but I could have used just maybe one more additional button on things... it feels like Simone should have shared her experience in more detail after everything that went down.

Grey's Anatomy: Don't You (Forget About Me) (21x13)

Oy... Teddy and Owen... c'mon.

Cons:

If one of the two of them was going to go through with the open marriage thing, I wish it had been Teddy with hot doctor lady Cass. Instead it's Owen and friend-of-sister who had a crush on him when they were kids. And I'm already tired thinking about where this is going - Teddy will say she doesn't want the open marriage thing, Owen will agree but the fact that he had sex with someone else will cause insecurities and issues... yawn. I want it to just work for them, I want it to be a good idea.

Blue and Molly breaking up is like... on the one hand, good, they were boring, but it also feels like a lot of this story-line was kind of wasted and pointless now? I want to see Blue and Jules start something up again, honestly.

Grey's Anatomy: Ridin' Solo (21x12)

Tom Koracick... mouse misogynist and Beatles fan... you'll always be famous.

Cons:

Okay, so, I'm going to heroically refrain from harping on about how Nick is boring. He's... there, and he's being supportive of Meredith which is good I guess. Whatever. However, I do have kind of a complaint/question about the Meredith plot here? I really wish there had been a moment where Meredith and Amelia had been like "oh my god, this is so exciting that Tom's research is actually yielding helpful information, we should team up with him and learn more" and then Tom could be even more of a jerk and reject their offer of collaboration, and then Meredith could have her whole "shame on you" moment during the application process, and Tom could win, and Meredith could decide to do it on her own.

Without that essential piece, the question just sort of lingers over this episode. Why can't these people who are all researching the same thing, work together on it? I get the idea, that Tom is just chasing fame and Meredith is truly passionate about the subject matter... but it just feels like a pooling of resources situation would make sense here. Tom even brought up that Meredith published her abstract for anybody to use, and Mer and Amelia were like "yeah, but we weren't thinking of you when we did that." Like... grow up, I know Tom is an immature baby, but you should be above that!

Grey's Anatomy: I Still Haven't Found What I'm Looking For (21x11)

Nick can fuck right off!

Cons:

I seriously hate that man, he's both boring and terrible to Meredith, where the hell did he get off trying to chastise her about her decision about the liver? I feel like my girl Meredith Grey has done plenty of criticism-worthy stuff over the years but right now she is a SAINT for the way she's dealing with these men in her life (Nick, Richard) who are being so condescending and shitty to her. I also just don't feel the chemistry or connection between Nick and Meredith. That ending scene where they're talking about how they'd go to any lengths to protect each other and how they can't imagine their life without each other? It just... it inspired nothing in me. They just don't have that spark, they aren't believable to me as a couple. And Richard giving Meredith a half-ass, grudging "I can understand why you did what you did" talk? Screw you, Webber, you owe her an unequivocal apology and you're lucky Meredith is being such a saint about this. Yeesh.

Grey's Anatomy: Jump (for My Love) (21x10)

Richard sucks, what the helllll.

Cons:

Okay, we all know my longstanding dislike of Catherine Fox, and she did annoy me this episode by trying to excuse Richard's behavior and make it about "oh, it's hard when your mentor is also family" or whatever. Like, no... stop excusing Richard's behavior. But honestly, I do appreciate that Meredith and Catherine are able to be adults and converse about professional things without being whiny little babies about it, so in that regard, I have to say that Richard Webber wins first prize for unreasonableness this week. His petty little avoidant act with Meredith is infuriating! And why? Because she didn't break HIPAA and tell Richard about Catherine's cancer? Dude, take it up with your wife, not with her doctor! I find the argument for why his anger is excusable so flimsy and nonsensical. He needs to get a grip. Poor Meredith didn't do shit to deserve this!

Nick continues to be boring, but he didn't do anything to piss me off too badly this week. He's just kind of set dressing to me, to be honest.

Grey's Anatomy: Hit the Floor (21x09)

Guess which romances in this episode I don't give a shit about? All of them!

Cons:

I don't even want to belabor the point because I'm just repeating myself, but in short? Jo and Link suck and don't work as a romance, and Link was seriously getting on my nerves in this episode. He's weird about the women he dates, he gets too intense about them. This is what ruined the Amelia/Link thing too, except that theirs was a relationship I did enjoy, and this one with Jo is bad and also is supposed to be endgame unless one of the actors wants to leave the show before the other one. I hated the implication that Jo had "never had a stable adult relationship before" because like... I know this show took a giant crap all over Alex Karev on his way out the door, but you cannot say their relationship wasn't a stable and adult relationship before that. Yeesh.

Grey's Anatomy: Drop It Like It's Hot (21x08)

A funny time of year to be watching an episode about a heatwave! This episode had some real old-school Grey's vibes for me, in a way I really liked.

Cons:

If Owen cheats on Teddy with that random lady he was flirting with waiting for car repair, I am going to sue ABC lol. Please, enough already! Honestly I think Dr. Open Marriage should go ahead and seduce Teddy and Owen both, drag her husband into the mix, Maybe Teddy and Owen would calm the fuck down if they were having fun extramarital sex. Or even group sex, let's do this fucking thing. Instead we have this insufferable moment where Owen sees Dr. Beckman giving Teddy a comforting and innocent touch on the arm in the elevator, and he gets all weirded out. Yeesh, I'm so tired of them.

I feel like there's a weird disconnect with Yasuda leaving in this episode. Jules is devastated and acts like it's this big final thing, but like... is she moving away forever? When your co-worker and girlfriend stops being your co-worker, that doesn't mean she's going to vanish from your life in an instant. I wonder what we'll find out about Yasuda after the hiatus. Is she just quietly moving away in the gap between episodes, or will it be a slower phase-out, like maybe we hear about her still being around for a while and then she comes back to guest for one more episode when she does finally move away or something? I don't know. I just felt like the stakes of this being a goodbye episode for the character were a little murky.

Grey's Anatomy: If You Leave (21x07)

Oh man, this is so sad...

Cons:

I feel like going into this season knowing Yasuda would be leaving at some point, it just really made the stuff with Chloe feel strange and awkwardly placed? You introduce a whole subplot with a sister who has cancer, you make that be the reason why the Yasuda/Jules romance isn't fully lifting off, you set it up as a way for Mika to maybe leave the show to take care of her sister, then you do a big scary car accident but Mika doesn't die... and then Chloe does? I understand drama for drama's sake, that's what this show is built around! But it just felt like a lot of setup for the payoff to be so tragic and then Mika's going to leave anyway? I guess we'll see how it all plays out, but I kind of wish this was setup for a character to deal with their grief, instead of setup for a character to depart.

I guess I'm glad Owen apologized to Teddy for his big overreaction but also, just, ugh - every second spent on their relationship feels like a waste of my time as a viewer. Not to be harsh or anything.

Grey's Anatomy: Night Moves (21x06)

Oh boy, this was a REAL roller-coaster of an episode for me, a lot I really loved and a lot that made me roll my eyes. I am obviously having an emotionally challenging week for reasons I don't even really want to write down, in the hopes that some day in the far future I can look back and read this and not know what I was even talking about... but because of that, I was liable to be really emotionally affected by what was happening on my screen. Let's talk about it.

Cons:

Owen and Teddy continue to suck in this really frustrating way where it just seems like they're willfully refusing to understand each other? They don't really come across as people who have been super close for such a long time, they come across completely disconnected and off. Like, Owen's reaction to Teddy's news about being kissed was super annoying, but also Teddy's method of telling him was WAY off. She should have approached it with a bit more seriousness given that she's the one who has a history of cheating within their relationship. She should have been like "hey, I want to tell you about what happened, it wasn't a big deal but I want to be fully honest..." instead, she just shot it off like a joke and it felt tonally very strange. She really couldn't have seen it coming that he'd react badly to that?

Grey's Anatomy: You Make My Heart Explode (21x05)

Teddy and Owen are so annoyyyyyingggg...

Cons:

I'm sad for no Yasuda this week because I know we're losing her soon. I wonder if we're just phasing her out right now with not much more content to follow. It's a bummer.

Lucas and Simone have a romantic moment in this episode and while nothing was super annoying about their scene, I do just want to lodge my familiar statement that they bore me. Just so that's on the record.

Owen and Teddy are not fun to watch. In one sense they are realistically like an old married couple, but only in all the worst ways. Owen is such a whiner, and Teddy is so rude to him, and they both rather unprofessionally let it carry over into their working relationship, and then Richard has to do a Wise Old Man routine and talk to Teddy about it, and Owen has to remember how to be romantic and connect with her so they don't have to schedule sex... it's just so tedious. Better, I suppose, than the kind of melodrama that makes me hate the characters with a fiery passion, but worse than if they'd just fade quietly into the background and walk off of the show while nobody's watching. I can't believe these are the characters that are sticking around, and not Schmitt and Yasuda.

Grey's Anatomy: This One's for the Girls (21x04)

This one's for the girls, is it? Which girls is this one supposed to be for? This girl is not particularly gripped.

Cons:

The amount of I Don't Give A Shit I was feeling when we get to that ending and Jo and Link are having twins? Godddd I don't care! I want to go back in time and make these two never fall in love, because it's putting me to sleep! Same with Teddy and Owen talking about how they need a chance to connect because work is keeping them so busy. It's not the most insufferable angst I've ever experienced from these two, but it's still not all that interesting.

Also... I didn't mind the story about Mika's sister in and of itself, but it's a bit hard to swallow when I know we'll be saying goodbye to this character soon. Is this what sunsets her off the show? She quits her job to take care of her sick sister? I mean... that's fine, I guess, but it's just a bummer to take up screen time with a new character here when we already know we have so little time left with Yasuda.

Grey's Anatomy: I Can See Clearly Now (21x03)

Hey, happy to report that Catherine didn't bug me too much in this one! It's hard to be too annoyed with someone who's in such a vulnerable position, I suppose.

Cons:

Richard, on the other hand... dude, what gives! Him snapping at Meredith for... not breaking HIPAA was a weird look. I understand being hurt and conflicted, but his scolding attitude was way out of line. Shame on you, Richard, not shame on Meredith!

Lucas and Simone's relationship is just utterly boring to me, and the avenues for drama between them are icky and unoriginal. You've got Lucas angsting about repeating his intern year, then you've got Simone accusing him of getting surgeries through nepotism. It's just... ugh. I'm not really vibing with any of it. It's a shame, because once again I feel like Simone went from being a real favorite, to being kind of consumed by the romance plot line and not getting a ton else to chew on as a character.

Grey's Anatomy: Take Me to Church (21x02)

You know how annoyed I have to be about a plot line for me to be on Teddy's side about something?

Cons:

Sometimes it just legitimately feels as if this show is punking me with the character of Catherine Fox. There was no real mention in this whole episode about her bullshit treatment of everyone else. Oh, Teddy and Owen are back at the hospital, and Amelia still has a job, and we're just kind of not talking about Meredith's research here... because Catherine is maybe dying. It's just so tedious! Do you want me to feel anger and frustration because Catherine is so fucking ridiculous and unreasonable, or do you want me to feel tender and sad about her health? Because I'm feeling the former, and I'm not feeling the latter, sorry!

Winston, I love you, but please stop trying to discourage Richard from stepping down. This dude needs to get out of the OR and away from this hospital! I love Richard, but my GOODNESS, they've run out of things to do with his character in a major way. I also just continue to not give a crap about Lucas Adams, and I find the actor kind of irritating? He's got that Disney Channel teenage-heartthrob vibe, and it's kind of cloying. I don't know if that makes any sense, but that's how I see it. He has that icky combination of being incredibly privileged but then also feeling constantly sorry for himself. I'm with Simone on this one; when she brought up the possibility of him being an intern again while the rest of them advance, and asking if it's going to cause issues, I think she's dead-on. I'm already dreading watching that play out. Please spare me.

Grey's Anatomy: If Walls Could Talk (21x01)

Wow, I hate Catherine Fox so much! Kind of an uneven premiere in terms of the things I care about.

Cons:

Honestly there's kind of a cognitive dissonance to how much Catherine sucks as a character, and her marriage to Richard. How exactly is he managing to thread the line with all of his friends who his wife just fired? It's bizarre and it's irritating. She's so entitled and such a bully and she's so unambiguously wrong in this situation that it's hard to see the complexity of the situation. And I hate Jackson being on his mom's side here, against Meredith! No no no! I didn't hate the Meredith and Catherine scene about her health, but I just keep coming back to Catherine literally being the Big Business Baddie who is restricting access to life-saving knowledge. Yuck!

Lucas Adams is still the most uninteresting intern by a large measure, and I hate that so much of our time is wasted on his angst. When he shows up at the end to Simone's door and declares that he's not going to Chicago, I'm thinking... boooo. I wish you'd go, and I wish Yasuda would stay instead. She's a better character in every way.

Grey's Anatomy: Burn It Down (20x10)

Ughhhh. Wow. That was not a good finale for me, for a lot of reasons.

Cons:

Gosh, where to even start, my list of grievances is so long. I guess let's go with a couple of the smaller irritants first: Jo being pregnant is such a no from me. And her not telling Link about it? What? Yeesh. I guess I'm glad that her dramatic passing out was just exhaustion and that she's fine, just pregnant, but I'm also very grumbly about the whole thing. It does seem like this show prioritizes storylines that I'm less interested in, and pushes aside the things that would really compel me.

Case in point number two, Lucas and his future fate. I wanted to be moved by everyone showing up to plead his case in front of Catherine, and in a way I was: good on Bailey and the interns for standing up to Catherine Fox, she badly needs to be told she's overstepping, honestly. But Lucas is just so fundamentally uninteresting to me, that the idea that the cliffhanger of the whole season is "but what about Lucas's career" just... sucks, from an investment perspective. Yasuda and Kwan and Jules are at this point far more interesting to me, and I like Simone a lot when she's not tied up in Lucas's drama. I'm just bummed about where the story investment is going, is I guess what I'm saying.

Grey's Anatomy: I Carry Your Heart (20x09)

Nick is so annoyingggg. This episode was full of multiple little irritants, to be honest.

Cons:

Like, look, I understand that Meredith is being a bad girlfriend to him, I do understand that. But Nick is still the most boring man ever invented for TV so it's hard for me to be invested in Meredith's love life with him. So when she's being dismissive and not prioritizing him, I'm like... so? Good for you. Leave his ass, Meredith, he's so generic I couldn't pick him out of a line-up. So I'm not invested on whether Nick decides to stick it out or not. I don't even know if I buy that Meredith would care that much if he suddenly vanished in a puff of smoke.

Link and Jo also suck in this episode! Their petty little fight over a patient just re-emphasized how uninteresting I find their romance. When they're happy, they're bland and forced. When they're snipping at each other, I just wish Alex Karev would barge into the room and take Jo back to run off with him so they can be happy. I've loved Jo for so long as a character but to be honest, with the news of Schmitt and Yasuda leaving next season, I'd swap Jo and Link for them in a heartbeat.